The short answer is no.

But, I want you to sit with that for a moment before you keep scrolling.

Because “no” might sound exhausting, like you’re signing up for a life of constant disruption and starting over where there’s no finish line and no moment where you finally get to exhale and just... be.

And I understand why that feels like a lot. I really do.

But also here’s what I’ve learned after walking through one of the most disorienting seasons of my life: The reset isn’t the problem. Resisting it is.

So if you’re in the middle of something right now, if life looks different than it did a year ago, or if you’re holding something you haven’t fully named yet, this one is for you.

Stay with me.

A few years ago, I walked into one of the hardest seasons of my life.

My marriage ended. My business was struggling, because my mind and heart just wasn’t in the work anymore. I had poured years of myself in into this beautiful thing that was impacting thousands of people, yet here I was, contemplating it all.

I had to get honest with myself and accept I was no longer doing work that lit me up.

I was also carrying over 100 pounds of extra weight on my body, over one hundred thousand dollars of debt on my back, and a distance in my family relationships that I didn’t quite know how to close. I’d spent the last 7 months helping my mom beat cancer, which meant to time to deal with any of the above.

I wasn’t just off track, I felt like I’d lost the plot entirely. Like girl, where did she go.

So a few days after my mom rang the cancer bell, I made a decision that probably looked courageous from the outside, but courageous it was not: I packed up my bags and moved to Mexico for a year…again (see not all that courageous).

It was a year I dubbed, The Great Reset…as evidenced below (click on pictures to view).

And no, I did not have a plan. I just knew I needed space to figure out what came next.

And yes, I understand the privilege of this statement, but my reset will look different than the next person’s. However, the premise is the same; take the space you need to figure out what comes next.

That time away was both my rest and the start of my rebuild season (more on this later). It was raw and uncomfortable and absolutely necessary. And I won’t pretend it was peaceful. Yes, the backdrop was beautiful, but it was also very lonely at times. There were so many quiets moments where I was left thinking, “What the hell happened? How it all get so bad, so fast.”

It was the first time in a long time that I stopped running long enough to actually hear myself think and what came up was painful. So I cried. A lot. And yes, there was usually a margarita in hand masking the salt from my tears, but there were still tears.

Oh so many tears.

And I know you’re probably thinking, “I’d rather be crying on the beaches of Mexico than where I am today.” But I’m here to tell you, the pain is the same. And the emptiness was likely greater.

I’ve had resets where I had to move out of a modest downtown townhome and into affordable housing miles away from everyone and everything, with a 9 year old, no car and no clue how to afford the $500/mo rent or how she’d get to school every day.

Fast forward 11 years later and she spent her Christmas break from college lounging in my hammock in Mexico.

Not all resets are glamourous, but they are necessary to get to the ones that are.

When I made it back to the States last year, I felt like a new person…

…but what I didn’t know was 1) Titty tape would prove to be harder to use than I thought, and 2) That my rebuild season was truly just getting started.

And while now, two years later from The Great Reset of 2024, I’m down over 100 pounds, I’m debt-free (well mostly), I’m in a loving romantic relationship, my relationship with my family is stronger than it has ever been, and I’m back doing work that actually means something to me…life still feels uncertain on most days.

Because resets don’t happen overnight. They happen in seasons. And my reset is still happening, because that’s just how this works. This is the human experience…welcome to the show.

And I know I'm not the only one who has been there.

Most of us treat a reset like a detour (and when I say most, I literally mean every single human on the planet).

We believe it’s something that happens when life goes sideways, a temporary reroute until we can get back to the “real” road.

Listen, life doesn’t hand you one big shake-up and then leave you alone. It hands you transitions. And transitions, whether you chose them or not, require you to reassess, recalibrate, and sometimes rebuild from the ground up. A new relationship or the end of one. A career shift. A loss. A move. A moment where you look up and realize the life you’re living no longer fits the person you’re becoming.

That moment is a signal. And the longer you ignore it, the louder it gets.

Because resets aren’t a sign that something went wrong. They’re a sign that something is changing. And change, even the good kind, requires you to release something, reckon with something, and start over in some way.

You see, the question has never been whether a reset is coming. The question is whether you’ll be willing to move with it when it does.

Not every reset looks the same, because not every season of life asks the same thing of you.

Now, these seasons are completely made up, yes. But when I look back over my own life and the lives of clients, family and friends, I notice a common throughline. Hell, I’m sure we all do: life happens in cycles. And the reset doesn’t live in all three of them. Thankfully, it only lives in two.

There’s Rest, the season that nobody warns you about because it looks like nothing from the outside. But it’s doing everything on the inside. It’s the exhale after the storm. The pause before the next chapter begins. It’s also the season where life is the most stable, where you finally get the break you’ve been asking for.

Rest isn’t weakness, and it isn’t laziness either. It’s the ground you need before anything new can take root. And if you skip it, if you try to push through and perform like everything is fine, you’ll find yourself rebuilding on a foundation that isn’t ready yet.

Then comes Rebuild, and this is where the reset actually begins. This is the season where you start making decisions again. Slowly at first. One thing at a time (if you’re smart). You’re not back to full speed, but you’re moving. You’re choosing. You’re starting to remember what you actually want, not just what you lost.

Rebuild is where clarity starts to return, and it doesn’t happen all at once. It takes root in the small moments that stack on top of each other, until one day you realize you can see the path again.

And then there’s Grow, the season everyone actually believes they’re in when they’re likely not. I get it. Growth feels good to the ego, so we pander to that belief, even when we can clearly see we’re drowning.

But in truth, this is the season where the work you did in the quiet finally starts to show. Where the choices accumulate. Where you look up one day and realize you’re not the same person who started this.

But growing doesn’t mean you have it all figured out.

It means you’re expanding into something you couldn’t have become without going through the seasons before it. It’s also where the reset is still very much alive, quietly shaping you even when it looks like you’ve arrived.

Here’s the caveat: you can go from growth to rebuild in an instant.

A job loss, a health scare, a relationship that ends, a decision that doesn’t pan out the way you planned. Life doesn’t always wait for you to feel ready before it shifts the ground beneath you.

And that’s exactly why learning to read your seasons matters more than trying to control them. The goal isn’t to stay in Grow forever. The goal is to recognize when the season has changed and be willing to adjust without losing yourself in the process.

So no, in a life that is ever evolving, resetting doesn’t end. But season do. And on the other side of every single one is a version of you that couldn't have existed without it.

And that makes it all worth it.

You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be honest about where you are.

Are you in Rest? Stop pushing and let yourself recover. Give yourself permission to be in the pause without calling it failure.

In Rebuild? Make one decision today that moves you forward. Just one. It doesn’t have to be big. It just has to be intentional.

In Grow? Keep going. Stay consistent. The proof of your work is already on its way.

The goal isn’t to rush through the reset. It’s to stop resisting the season you’re actually in.

Resets don’t end. But they do transform you, if you let them.

Every transition, every loss, every moment where the life you planned stops matching the life you’re living is an invitation, not a punishment. It’s an invitation to come back to yourself, rebuild on purpose, and grow into whoever you’re becoming next.

I just shared the full story of one of the biggest resets of my life: what I lost, what I walked away from, and what it actually took to come back. It’s on YouTube now. Go watch I Lost Myself in My Marriage and let me know what comes up for you.

And remember, whatever season you’re in, embrace it. It’s working for your good more than you know.

— Donteacia 💛